Nicknames:

Helper • Giver

"You can have everything you want in life, if you will just help others get what they want." —Zig Ziglar

"Applause and the recognition it represents are among the world's most powerful forces." —Mary Kay Ash

"The only way for us to help ourselves is to help others and to listen to each other's stories." —Elie Wiesel

Likely examples:

Summary:

For TWOs, people come first, and TWOs have sensitive radar for attending to the feelings and concerns of those around them. However, it can be nearly impossible to get TWOs to share what they themselves need. The other complaint you'll occasionally hear about TWOs is that their people-pleasing is really ingratiation calculated to build their behind-the-scenes power. But the TWOs might summarize their real agenda as empowering others to meet their goals.

Qualities and preferences:                          

Relationships are their primary focus.

Expressive of feelings, primarily the positive ones.

Trusting and positive about people.

Intense, dramatic (esp. if extroverted).

Prefer focus on one person at a time (esp. if introverted).

Appear self-confident.

Concerned with their image.

Actually fear that if they expressed their own needs they would drive others away; as a result of pushing their own needs into the background they can become largely unaware of strong needs that have

How to take them:

It can be difficult to find out what are the real needs of a TWO because they are focused on other people's needs. They may not even seem to need to be appreciated, but do: make sure you give them the credit (in front of others) and direct acknowledgement of their caring and efforts. Or if their attempts to be helpful are not having that effect, frame your feedback kindly: in such a way that they can know what will be appreciated as helpful.

Slogans or catch-phrases:

"I am needed."

"Depend on me."

Appreciated by others for:

People skills and sensitivity.

Helpfulness and attentiveness.

Less appreciated by others when/if:

Try to flatter way to influence. Want too much attention. Won't express own needs. Try to keep others dependent on the TWO's help. Chameleon: ever shifting according to others' needs, views.

How to make an appeal to them:

Consider the human factors: how individuals will be affected.

Show how they can have a role in benefiting others.

Myers-Briggs likely types:

EF: Extraverted-Feeling types

Specifically: ENFJ, ESFJ, ENFP, ESFP;

also: IF (Introverted-Feeling types)

Oriented toward the personal- human- feeling-sides of life.

Stressed by, uncomfortable with, or preferring to avoid:

Isolation and separation, esp. from primary people.

Rule-bound situations where individual needs and circumstances are not allowed into consideration.

Creations by or about this type:

Mary Kay on People Management by Mary Kay Ash

Leadership Is an Art by Max De Pree

Servant Leadership by Robert Greenleaf

Get along better with them by:

Show an interest in "their people."

Appreciate the trouble they go to, even if they downplay it.

Be sure they get open credit for their contributions.

Warning signs of stress:

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Challenges for growth:

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How you can grow from your ONE wing:

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How you can grow from your THREE wing:

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In your childhood, background:

TWOs learned early that they could avoid a lot of the pain life and get their most central needs met by pleasing others through helpfulness, pleasantness, and/or seductiveness, and used their inherent social sensitivities to find opportunities to do so.

Empowerment from high qualities of FOUR:

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